First lets start with Korea. Ever so slowly opening up to foreigners. They have accepted that given the crisis of a declining population the rise of multicultural marriages (marriage between a Korean and Non-Korean) is inevitable. Everywhere I look I see these couples, and it's not just between a Korean female and foreign guy anymore. The reverse is also true. I think more people are aware of Korea, thanks to well, North Korea (sorry it's true) and K-pop culture (songs, dramas and TOP - OK that last one was for me I love him so much!). More foreigners are learning Korean and it is not so shocking to see foreigners fluent in Korean.
None of these changes are major enough to cause me this much distress though. A lot of things changed for me this year. I quit my job, I realized I didn't really fit anymore. Obviously I'll never be Korean, but I am different from the foreigners who come here and just live in little America. Those foreigners judge me all the time. As if wanting to understand the language of the country I live in makes me some kind of freak. Many Koreans are afraid of me, because that will always be a thing. So I am often frustrated, wondering why am I even trying?
Korean guys are interesting. I have been approached by and even dated some of them but never seriously. They are different from western guys for sure. They show their emotions and care so much more. The thing is that even by western standards I'm not a very girly girl, so in this society I often feel like I am the guy. I am not going to really express that I am into a guy until I have been seeing him continuously for more than 3 months. Korean guys try to hold my hand after one date. So there is that...
|But there is always TOP (look at that swag). Let me get some of that. Seriously, Korean boys take note!|
But the biggest thing I've realized is
So I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I do like this country. A lot. Genuinely. The people, the food, the language - not just the money like so many others. I met a guy who told me I could specialize in Eastern medical anthro and get funding here in Korea, but I admit since I moved to Korea I've gotten lazy and comfortable. I've lost my drive. I need to get it back
I have been spurred by a series of unfortunate events this year. I'm running out of money and I should find a new job but I am too lazy. I don't want to work full time any more. I have an expensive lifestyle (I used to earn over $4K a month). The point is I may be leaving Korea soon because I have to, even if I don't want to.
But, I want people to know the disillusionment stems from me. Korea, people give you a lot of flack, but you've come so far in the last 50 years it's impressive. You will always have a special place in my heart as the country where I found myself, and realized I do love being a nerd, but that I can have fun too. I don't know where I am going, but I need to see another country, experience something new, try a new thing.